It can be tough going through a divorce or relationship breakdown, but if you want to make the experience healthy and one that does not end up bitter and twisted – here are some simple tips:
- Focus on the facts. For example, your ex may have had an affair and left the marriage, instead of becoming reactive and emotional, focus on how you will now co-parent your 10-year-old daughter, so that she gets love and stability from both of you.
- Look at the problem from both sides. This means looking at the problem or issue from the perspective of your ex. If you can do that, then you will find that you will come up with common ground. For example, if you have children, you and your ex already have a common understanding that you both love and want the best for them.
- Don’t make assumptions. Just because your ex did things a certain way when you were together, doesn’t mean that they will behave in the same way now. In fact, divorce brings so many changes to people’s behaviours you can never assume what they are thinking or doing.
A Healthy Divorce means putting aside your emotions when making decisions about your children, your property and your money. It means making decisions that are legally enforceable and that will make sense to you financially as well.
More tips to help you think like a lawyer:
- Make sure all your agreements are properly written and legally enforceable
- Have a clear and accurate knowledge of your living costs, including costs of raising children
- Understand your tax liabilities and tax consequences when it comes to keeping or selling assets
- Don’t assume valuations for your property, get independent valuations done
- Check your ex’s financial documents, to satisfy yourself that you know their true financial situation
Disclaimer
The information is not intended as legal advice, rather it is general information. For specific legal advice, contact 02 8999 1800 or info@cominoslawyers.com.au